Hello #SOC fans, I apologise for not updating you on #RT (RelationshipTalks) for quiet a long while, job has been demanding. I hope you enjoy today episode.
HOW A WOMAN CAN TELL A MAN IS TRULY IN LOVE WITH HER.
In our last episode of #RelationshipTalks, I did the “guys” a favour by telling them the secret behind proposing to a girl the normal way, if you missed it, you canCLICK HERE! to read it.
In this episode I thinks its only fair if I tell the ladies a secret about guys too, as the topic above states, I’m going to tell you how to know if a man truly loves you.
I’m a matured lady who has been in this game we call love even before I had two huge contours on my chest and in all these years, I’ve made researches, studies and even experienced what it’s like to be in love from the female perspective.
There is a saying: “women love emotionally and men love mentally”, the saying simply implies that women love with their heart i.e without thinking, while men love with their head i.e they think and calculate a lot. As a lady, I would have loved to deny this fact but I can’t because its totally true.
So this brings about many questions. Questions like: Does my boyfriend/ spouse really love me? Does he have plans of eventually marrying me someday? Are we just fuck buddies? Etc.
I’m going to give you ten points to consider if you want an answer to the questions above.
1. HE STOP THINKING FOR ONLY HIMSELF.
This simply means he start including you in important life choices and decisions, decisions like where he plans to buy a house and either he should accept a promotion at work. In cases like this, you would discover he asks for your opinion before taking any serious decision
2. HE WILL SPEND MORE TIME WITH YOU.
As a bachelor, most men prefer to go out and have fun with their guys. After work, the call their guys over or go to a joint where they usually meet. If a guy truly loves you, this sort of “bachelor outings” would reduce. I’m not saying he would stop it, because that’s impossible, but it would reduce because he would want to hang out with you more often.
3. HE BECOMES VERY OBSERVANT ABOUT THINGS THAT CONCERNS YOU.
This point is quite explainary but just to shine more light to it, he remembers almost everything you tell him. Things like your favourite colour, your birthday, your favourite meal etc.
4. HE WOULD BE STRAIGHT FOWARD.
If your man loves you then he loves you, there is no buts or maybes. When he starts to separate love into categories like: “I love you,” but “I’m not in love with you.” Babe, when your man start to use phrases like that, run away because that isn’t love at all.
5. HE WOULD ALWAYS FORGIVE YOU.
We are all human and as programmed by God, we are prone to making mistakes. When you make a mistake and ask for forgiveness, he would forgive you no matter what. Please don’t say aunty Ruby said that every human makes mistake then go and screw his best friend and say that’s a mistake because did your clothes accidentally fall off?. When I say mistake, I mean casual mistakes.
6. YOUR ACCESS WOULDN’T BE LIMITED.
I’ve seen cases where a man builds a house and lock up a room saying that his spouse shouldn’t enter it and that’s his own personal space … That’s bullshit! If a man truly loves you, he keeps no secret from you. How can someone who loves you limit your access. If he truly loves you, he can go as far as telling you his phone security lock code and at most his ATM pin.
7. HE WOULD WANT TO ALWAYS SEE YOU HAPPY.
If a man is in love with you, he does what you tell he to do, he buys gifts for you, he takes you out for dinner. He doesn’t do all this things because he is stupid or doesn’t have a mind of his own but because your happiness is his happiness.
8. HE ENJOYS TALKING TO YOU AFTER A LONG DAY.
Most times, after he has had a long day at work and is about to sleep, you cross his mind and he calls you immediately. The reason is this, you help him relax.
9. HE INTRODUCES YOU TO HIS FRIENDS AND FAMILY.
If you are in a seriously relationship with a man who claims to love you and you don’t know at least three of his good friends then he either doesn’t have any future plan with you or he just doesn’t love you that much.
10. HE PROPOSES TO YOU.
This is a very important point. If a man truly loves you, he would want to spend the rest of his life with you and the only to do that is by marrying. This alone doesn’t guarantee he is in love with you, but coupled with the other nine points.
So that’s all I have for you guys today, I hope this tips helps you out in identifying “the one”.
NB: most of this points apply to guys too, so I think its a unisex thing after all.
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SEE YOU GUYS ON OUR NEXT EPISODE.